Well, we made it to 2013. Give yourself a well-deserved (?) pat on the back.
It’s that time of year which sees people looking nostalgically back on the previous twelve months, boasting about the things that they have done and sweeping the things they wish they hadn’t done under the carpet whilst muttering ‘new year, new start…’
I’m not one for making New Year’s resolutions, usually because I know that I will never stick to them. I also believe that if you want to change something or do something differently, then you should set to right away rather than waiting for a milestone.
On the other hand, some people need this marker to give them the courage to do what they desire. If there is a set date when you have to start the diet/give up smoking/try new things (delete appropriately) then there will be a build up period where you can psyche yourself into a state of panic before the day eventually arrives. It also provides you with ample time to overdose on cupcakes/cigarettes/doing nothing (delete appropriately) because you have the excuse that you will change it… soon.
I think the New Year and therefore the resolutions that come with it are a bit of a farce, only serving to provide a distraction during January, the most depressing month of the year. It provides us with the chance to obsess over one thing (or two or three, depending on how long your scroll of resolutions is), rather than look at why we haven’t done something about it sooner.
Why do we even need to change?
And then there’s the argument of why we should change anything at all. New Year resolutions are a bit like peer pressure. When the girl skinnier than you tells you she’s going on a diet, you start thinking maybe you should too – even if it’s the last thing you want. You start pinpointing tiny aspects of your life that you could change, but don’t really want to otherwise you would have done it sooner.
This year, I came up with a (huge) list of things I’d like to do or change this year, many of which have been lurking at the back of my mind for years. Because of this, it is more than unlikely that I will actually do them because – you’ve got it – I haven’t done anything about them sooner. Plus, it’s quite nice to have ‘dreams’, they’re what keeps us going, right? If I did everything I wanted to do, what would I have to look forward to?
Maybe we all need that list of things that we will do ‘one day’ but probably will never do to keep our ambitions alive and the fire in our bellies. Then again, maybe I’m wrong. I hold utmost respect for those who make a resolution and stick to it. I have even more respect for those who work hard for their goals throughout the year, not just in January when it’s deemed necessary.
I’ll be starting this year smug because I’ve figured out the New Year scam. And now you can too! How’s that for a late Christmas present?
I’ve seen a lot of posts about New Year travel resolutions which I think are different to the generic diet/quit smoking/run more ones because they are not changing anything – it is simply a form of planning. It is not changing anything about your appearance, your actions, or your attitude (although these might happen along the way as a secondary aspect). You’re primarily not changing anything about YOU, but it may happen along the way like everything else that happens in life.
So, here’s to 2013, where I will unsuccessfully plan to change everything about myself even though I don’t really want to. Care to join?
On a more serious note – I would love to hear from you whether you agree or completely disagree with my unasked for rant! Have you made any resolutions? More importantly, will you be sticking to them?
About the author: Lizzie is a full time marketing assistant and part-time travel blogger promoting the ways to get the most out of grab-it-when-you-can travel. She spends her time creatively thinking of ways to plan trips around her job and advocating the idea that you don’t have to be ‘homeless’ to enjoy the perks of frequent travel. Aside from this, Lizzie likes questioning why people travel and the psychology behind it, watching crap American TV programmes, and drinking too much tea (cider). You can find out more about Lizzie here (go on – I know you want to see what’s behind the melon…)